50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.
What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.
Thank fuck, I love this post
CHRISTIAN GREY FUCKING BROKE INTO ANA’S HOUSE AND RAPED HER IN RESPONSE TO HER TRYING TO BREAK UP WITH HIM.
IT DOES NOT MATTER THAT SHE WAS JOKING. IT DOES NOT MATTER THAT SHE ENJOYED IT. HE THOUGHT SHE WAS NOT JOKING AND HAD NO WAY OF KNOWING SHE WAS ENJOYING IT. HE HAD SENT HER HOME WITH THE CONTRACT WITH THE SPECIFIC IDEA IN MIND THAT SHE COULD READ IT THROUGH AND DECIDE IF SHE WANTED TO GET INVOLVED WITH HIM OR NOT, AND WHEN SHE APPEARED TO DECIDE ON “OR NOT” HE FUCKING RAPED HER. CHRISTIAN GREY IS A RAPIST NOT A DOM.
Like jesus fuck people you really don’t HAVE to work this hard to find reasons why this book is not a good fucking example of BDSM! He raped her!
I don’t know about you, but I read a considerable amount of erotica as a teen, I can assure you that more teens were reading it then adults before it was published as a book. We need to make sure to address the abuser in Dom’s clothing, and that teens and young adults know how bad the practices in this book series are
Oh hell yeah, I agree. This thing was on fanfiction.net for christ’s sake! I assume plenty of young minds were exposed to it before it ever crossed a publisher’s desk. That’s why it’s so important to talk about this stuff instead of letting it slide, and also why I don’t think we should tiptoe around the fact that Christian Grey raped Anastasia Steele. The example I mentioned is only one of many, but it’s particularly egregious considering that he did it in a direct attempt to coerce her into a relationship with him that he believed she didn’t want.
But the most fucked up thing about these books isn’t their actual content, it’s how the people involved with creating and distributing it allow themselves and their audience to blur the line between fantasy and reality. If it were marketed as pure fantasy and labeled as such — like a “professional driver, do not attempt” caption on a car commercial — it would be fine. I wouldn’t have a problem with it. But this book is being touted as something that can save relationships; Christian Grey is portrayed as the man that all women want and all men should strive to be, and that fucking terrifies me. Fantasizing about something is not the same as wanting it to actually happen, but too few people seem to grasp that nuance and that’s what makes this so dangerous.
TVXQ! ‘Ti Amo’ Photobook Scans
Love this. Totally feeling them working as a team together here.
QUICK SOMEONE DRAW HARU SAYING THAT HE’s BEEN TASTING MAKOTO FOR LIKE HELLA LONG AND HE SHOWS SOMEONE THIS BOTTLE
“Makoto tastes so good that I just can’t stop. Makoto makes me happy, and I get even more excited when I poor Makoto all over my body”
"Makoto tastes very delicious on mackerel"
*Entire club is looking at him with shocked looks then Makoto walks in and they just stare at him and he’s so confused and feels so awkward like what did he miss*
Gou: Now, everyone, as athletes you all need to eat better. So, this morning the lovely Gou-chan is going to do an assessment of what you all had for breakfast this morning. Nagisa-kun, what did you eat for breakfast?
Nagisa: Eh? Iwatobi Jelly bread, of course!
Gou: Wha?! I told you not to eat that stuff! Next! Makoto-senpai?
Makoto: *sheepishly* I had a traditional breakfast my mother made for me. Miso soup, natto, some fish and rice.
Gou: You shouldn’t eat so much in the morning, senpai. Next, Rei-kun!
Rei: *glasses sparkle* I had a glorious breakfast. One simply cannot fathom the beauty of the—
Gou: Enough! It’s too early for this. Haruka-senpai?
Haru: I squirted some Makoto on my mackerel this morning.
Everyone else: O.O
Haru: I spilled too much so I had to lick it off. It got everywhere. But it was good, salty and tangy but a little too rich for my tastes. It was a little thicker than I had expected.
Nagisa: Eh? Mako-chan and Haru-chan?!
Rei: *flustered and shocked*
Makoto: Oh, you tried the stuff, Haru?
Haru: Yeah. It was good.
Makoto: That’s good. I’m glad you liked it. I’ve got more I can give you later. *smiles*
Haru: Aa. Thanks. I want it with honey this time.
Makoto: haha. Okay, Haru.
Everyone else: *jaws drop*
Makoto and Haru: *blink*
Makoto: What’s wrong?
Nagisa: *pats Makoto on the shoulder* congrats, Mako-chan, Haru-chan. *beams at them* I wish you two every happiness.
Rei: *pushing up glasses with a flustered look* Y-You’re both guys…but judging from the data and how close you two are…and the fact that Makoto-senpai pretty much goes in and out of Haruka-senpai’s house whenever he wants to…I-I should have foreseen this.
Gou: *thinking: I-If those two are doing *that* together T-then-then…*imagines all the muscles involved in the deed* Kyaa! *hearts float around her as she imagines muscles moving as Makoto moves back and forth while Haru writhes beneath him*
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I know Free! might be confusing to the uninitiated, so I made a helpful table describing the characters:
can we get one for sosuke, nitori and momo???
Nitori Aichiiro- Senpai complexed fangirl- adorable little kohai
Souske- intimidating and rin obsessed- possessive best friend possible lover
Mikoshiba Momotarou- exactly like Seiijuro- you cute lil shit
that’s my analysis anyways
All the marvel art I did for the Draw Yourself Challenge so far! I thought I’d put them in one post c:
To clarify the art:
- I am a muslim girl who wears the hijab and prefers to wear long/loose things that go below the butt
Reblogging again because i just added Stark and Banner~
but they kept the servents black alright this is one of the ugliest things i’ve ever seen in my life
I am not sure I have ever seen a better use of that reaction gif.
I’m gonna step in for a second: Moses was not by any sense white. He was a Jew, a goddamn Mizrahi Jew. I’d like to see him as such, thank you very much. Regardless of the story’s validity, it’s important to my people. If you’re going to do it, do it fucking right.
Moses was not a Mizrahi Jew because concepts like “Mizrahi”, “Ashkenazi”, “Sefardi”, etc didn’t exist at the time.
He was a Hebrew, a pure, brown, Jewish Hebrew.
Favourite Characters - Rei Ryugazaki (Free!)